About
THE RATIO
TRIBE™
Why The Ratio Tribe Exists
Built for the ones looking for one.
The Ratio Tribe is a community for gay men who believe they were designed to be with another man — and who would rather spend their energy finding the right one than auditioning many.
Here's the truth: the man who's going to change your life is almost always your opposite, arranged as your equal. If you lean dominant, he leans submissive. If you lean submissive, he leans dominant. And the magic happens when you can trade places — when you can both lead and be led. That's when it stops being a hookup and starts being a life.
We give you two things. First, the science — the 2D:4D digit ratio, the fraternal birth-order effect, attachment style — packaged honestly, no shame, no filler, so you know exactly where you sit and what you need. Second, the framework to recognize the right man when he shows up, so you stop settling for the wrong one.
"Finding the right man is hard. So we settle for many. But when you find him, everything changes. That's worth the science."
— Jorge Cruise, Founder
The Book
The 3 Choices.
Simple Practices to Transform Pain into Power
The framework this tribe runs on — Be Imperfectly You. Don't Hold Your Breath. Move to Improve. Published by Hay House, 2017. An updated edition is in development.
The Community That Came First
Project 1973.
Founded on Facebook in 2010, 600+ gay men strong. Proof that the appetite for a real, science-grounded brotherhood is older than the apps. The Ratio Tribe is its next chapter — designed for millions.
Join Project 1973 on Facebook →Every Gay Man, Mapped
The archetypes.
A starting taxonomy — the gay tribes most members identify with first. Ethnicity is not an archetype; body composition, energy, and life stage are. More tribes added with the charter cohort as the research warrants.
The Founder
The rest is my story.
Coming out at 39. Thirteen years of therapy. A partner who is secure where I was anxious. The reason The Ratio Tribe had to exist.
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